The tools are immaterial, the resulting piece is what's most important.

Tuesday, March 29, 2011

Love or Money

Another eternally debated question.

Personal feel, this is a question where either extreme of the answer is liable to be wrong. Without money, both will starve to death. Without love, the relationship is doomed to a failure. The answer, rather lies in one's opinion in one of the infinite shade of grey between either extreme, and totally depend on one priority.

On one hand, the man is usually the traditional breadwinner in an Asian Family. On the other, I firmly believe that every man wants his partner to see him for more than his wallet. Just like women who wants a man that can see past their breasts.

The bigger the wallet, or the breast, the harder it is to see past those trappings to the person behind.

That's why a man doesn't like it when the woman always talks about money. It demeans the man. Ladies, would you really like your guy to come up to you and say, hun, I love you, but you gotta get bigger breast. Right?

We all want a good life. Question is, how high is that on your list of priorities?

Question for the ladies, Love or money?
Question for the gents, Love or breast?

Maybe men and women aren't that different after all..

Friday, March 25, 2011

Love hurts whether it's right or wrong

I am happy for the both of you. It is easier to be angry, to rant, and to jump and walk away. Anger is a much simpler solution. But I can't. It doesn't feel right, even to me. The conviction, the openness, I would have given anything and everything for it to be for me.

I envy those with a special someone. I read somewhere that the only time when you have no more trouble in your life, is when you die. Well, guess what, same thing with relationships. And I'll trade every quarrel, every fight, every irritation and rant to have that special someone in my life. So those of you who do, appreciate him or her. If your significant other doesn't appreciate you, send them my way.

Humour is my shield. It's just easier on everyone, and the devil-may-care sometimes funny extroverted clown is a familiar role. Because really, how many people care enough to listen, and understand?

As for opening my heart, well... heh. I don't think I can love anyone else quite as much. Or saw so much of myself in someone. I don't think I will, for a long, long time to come.

It's time to go back to being alone again. Oh I'll be fine. I'll feel sorry for myself and be lonely on my own time rather than burden those around me with it. Permit me one night to grief. One night to let it all hang loose and be sad and sorry for myself. One night where I wrap my loneliness around me and cry my heart out.

I wish you both the best from the bottom of my heart. Really and truly. I know everything will work out for the both of you. Now wish me back, as empty as it would sound to me right now, that maybe there really is someone out there for me and that I'll find her before long.

What is love, that makes it the simplest, and the most complicated emotion in the world to understand?

What is love, that makes someone go through hell and high water, and be willing to try again?

What is love, that brings two people together and keeps them together even though logic dictates otherwise?

What is love, that make strangers friends, and friends become lovers, while others falter?

What is love, that makes a person try, and keep trying, even though his efforts are doomed from the start?

What is love, that makes one dream more significant than all the others, and we burn our lives chasing it and count it well spent?

What is love, that makes us find beauty in ordinary things, and the holding of two hands the most intimate of human contact?

What is love, that pushes two people to dedicate their lives into a commitment to each other?

What is love, that makes it the root of the most painful and most pleasurable feelings in the human vocabulary and experience?

What is love, that makes all the analysis of a relationship, all the articles and research written on it, redundant?

All I know now, after 27 years, is that I have no answers. All I know, is that it is exceedingly rare, heart-stoppingly beautiful and precious. All I know, is that love has no reason, and that as long as it exists, no matter how torn and battered it might be, give it every single opportunity to thrive and grow. And if it is already dead, then nothing one can do can bring it back to life.

For those of you who have a special someone, I envy you. The only time in life when you have no problems is when you're dead. Such is love. The day you have no more troubles from love, is the day that love is dead.

I would take all the issues, baggage, fights, quarrels, pain, anger and tribulation, for that one chance to love and be loved. And if you have it or a chance at it, treasure it. Guard it with your life. Don't let pride, anger, history, self doubt, jealousy, or the mundaneness of everyday life kill it. At the same time, if it is not there, let go. But after you have tried every, single thing.